try to work it outBig Serious! Real Question- kind and true answers please--!!!!!!?
Oh yes....but you kind of need to know what happen between the point you broke up with him and now. So there will be nothing unexpected to arise in the future....bills, children, warrants OK maybe that was to far. You don't need to do an FBI check up. But you do need to know how he got to the point of coming back to you. Any relationship can work as long as your two hearts are in it. But just to make sure you don't get hurt by any unseen things ...Just ask.
Sounds like he may want what he had when he was high.. be careful that he isnt just grasping at straws to get that ';high'; back.. but if both of you are serious, go slow.. there is so much more to lose know .. good luck
I believe is is possible yes.
There is a big but however. This can and should only happen is he has proven to you he truly has changed and put this behind him. This will take time and will not be easy. However if all works well it should be worth it.
I see already that you want this to work. That is why I say you truly need to use caution. Take the feeling out of it for now and really look at him for what he is.....not what you hope he will be.
You know the power of drugs. They are life long. So just be careful.
Doomed to your own stupidity.
There are better men out there. There are men that don't need methadone to get through the day. There are men that want to spend time with you, have fun, get married, have kids, and grow old - without the drama of addiction.
Demand more for yourself.
Expect more for yourself.
Stop settling for less.
You deserve better.
Everyone does.
yes of course... who are we to judge people. some people can really change if they want to. if he is being honest with you now he might see it as his very last chance and he will continue. if ya love him go for it girl.
Well I met up with my first love and my second love much later in life and I can only say that they were both a big dissapointment. The magic had truly gone. Some things are best left in the past-there were reasons you split up before, and there are reasons now, not to reunite. If you truly felt this was the right thing to do then you wouldnt need to ask on here? Somewhere deep down you have big big reservations-your head is telling you no. Follow your head!
I'm a recovering heroin addict 19 months clean i got clean thru a methadone program. I am now a totally different person then i was in active addiction. My only advice is that you keep your guard up. A ADDICT IS ALWAYS A ADDICT ALWAYS they are either active or recovering the sickness can always come back you do have to be sure he dose not fall back into using it will ALWAYS be a risk that he could. I do believe people can recover but the % of people who do recover from Heroin is very very small. I do have a great meaningful relationship now I'm 33.5 weeks pregnant I'm rebuilding a love and life that i had lost before due to drugs. My bf has never had any problems with drugs or drinking he is FULLY aware of the risk that i could relapse. We talk about it he supports me we go to meetings. You are going to have to put more into this relationship then you would have to put in with a non addict. You need to think hard about how much you can give this. You need to learn about addiction and dealing with recovery. If you don't have the time and emotional effort to deal with this I'd walk away before you get to deep. A addict never puts it all behind them you have to fight everyday and make the choice to not use.
I wouldn't, but that's me...You know working in the medical field that him coming off the methadone will be the same as him coming off the drugs, if he ever comes off it...You also know there is no cure for hepC, this is forever. He wont be the same person you fell in love with a long time ago, we all change normal as we get older. Right now i think with his history he is looking for someone to tend to him and he is going backwards not forward, that would concern me...I would be his friend, but that's how as far it would go. Its OK to be friends, but you have gone on with your life, established yourself in a job and you are healthy hopefully. No need to go backwards girl, move on....
I would let this guy go and end the contact. He's got Hep C - why would you want to risk getting that? Based on his history, red flags are shooting up. Don't ignore them. You can do better.
YES----
BUT------ be careful.
Stay away from the bedroom until you know he is a new man. Make sure he is the man you want to marry. I mean WAIT a long-long-long (get the picture- real long) time before you get too close. Make sure he is clean. If he is the marrying kind-and you love him, then marry him. Then and then only go to the bedroom. Monkey business got you in trouble with him before-it can trap you again.
You don't have anything or anyone else going in all these years???? Why???? Frankly, the drug stuff would scare the socks off of me, and I'm sure I would have looked elsewhere.
You can try, but if it were me, I'd never try it. Someone once told me that the only thing good reheated was stuffed cabbage.....
It is all about what you are willing to put up with. You know his history and what he put you through in the past. I know you hope that he will not disappoint you again, but are you willing to go through it again. You know the answer to your question and i think you should do some serious soul searching before you let him back into your life. No one is perfect, but the key to finding the right person is knowing your limits and what you are willing to deal with. If you are prepared for him and his situation and go into it knowing what you are getting into then it could work. But is seems like you will be taking on a huge burden. Is he worth it? I hope the pro's outweigh the con's in this situation and i pray that you make the right decision, but only you know what the right decision is. You will also have to be prepared to live with the decision no matter the consequences.
I think it is tough to stay clean if you are with someone you used to use with. But, what do you have to lose.
My BF has Hep C. Big deal! If you don't share needles or razors you have really no risk of getting it from him.
Reality? Probably been too much water under the bridge.
I think everyone deserves a second chance if they are truly sincere and repentent.
fellow your heart but be sure if you want to try start slowly.
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