LIFE/RELATIONSHIP QUESTION (NEED HONEST,TRUE HELP)?

hello everyone.





ok, well i have a problem and I am in need of some help, someone with expierence in this field. im young, with a good head on my shoulders. i live with my mother and am currently in school still. well since this is a relationship/life issue, i should just get to it.





i am with this boy, and my mom has no knowledge of it. the only reason i didnt tell her, is because we are of the opposite race. my mom believes in with the whole ';keep it withing your race'; thing, but i believe differently. our relationship is wonderful, and even though we hide it, we get along and have alot of stuff in common (not to mention we love eachother very much) i knoe alot of people are gonna think ';its just that sappy teenage love'; but we believe its real love. well, his patents are tough, hes not allowed to date at all until hes 19-20. and it just seems like were both screwed. now we have gotten into serious talk about moving out, and starting our life together. but with our parents in the way, its hard. we cant figure out a plan to make both of our parents happy; but we dont want to please our parents, we believe that we should be able to be happy together without pleasibg anyone. now knowing my mom she will shun me when she finds out, and i know i want to be with him for an extremly long time. we just need advice on the parents, ad the moving out part. we have no clue what to do about it. PLEASE HELP US!LIFE/RELATIONSHIP QUESTION (NEED HONEST,TRUE HELP)?
Realistically so long as you remain financially dependent upon your respective parents, it is going to be extremely difficult to just ignore their opinions, no matter how biased they may be. The bummer of the reality is that money does offer a large degree of control.





If you and your b/f really want to be together - you need to come up with a plan for legally being financially free from either set of parents. If you're both young and uneducated, that will be all the more difficult. You need to do some serious soul searching as to whether ';your love'; will get you through YEARS of a low quality of life. I'm not saying it will or won't, but you guys need to go into this eyes wide open. Two under educated people working minimum wage jobs to pay for a shared room in a house somewhere while eating ramen. The bad news - you're going to need to get school and training whilst working these crud jobs for years and years (plan 4 - 6 years). The good news - you're FREE. You do what you want, when you want it and your parents opinions don't matter.





I'm always a fan of going your own way, but be very cognizant of the prices you'll have to pay.





Very best of luck!LIFE/RELATIONSHIP QUESTION (NEED HONEST,TRUE HELP)?
I think your relationship will be a lot healthier when it's out in the open. It can't be fun trying to hide it all the time! I say just come out with it. Your parents will have to get over it eventually and maybe if they see you guys together they will actually appreciate that you are in love. Good luck!!
Well, you need to do what will make you happy, since it IS your life. And then if children come along that may bring them around cause all grandparents want to spoil their grandchildren.
This is what I think that you should do. You talk to your mother about this and just tell her that he is your friend and get her to like him. She has to earn both of you guys trust you don't want to jump in and tell her look mom this is my boyfriend and I love him No you have to introduce him with a couple of other Friends to your mother. Well as for him do the same thing just don't tell his parent's that you're his girlfriend wait until you guys are 18 then they don't have no say so in who you date. They may not like it but, there won't be anything they can do about it. About you guys moving out together not a good idea yet wait until you guys are 18, have jobs and have a little money put away. Because it is not easy to just move in together and not have your priorities straight. You have to have the money for a place and a way to get around. You want to be self dependent of yourselves and not your parents you have to be on the right track at least finish high school. Make sure it's going to work out with you both before you jump into it. I have been trough this before trust me I know what it is like.
Don't move out - you're both younger than 19 apparently, so you're too young to have to deal with the pressures of that kind of situation. Real life of that nature is harder than it looks. You both need time to mature. It sounds like he can't date anyone of any race until he's 19 or 20, so you need to keep his parents out of the equation for now. I'd start with your mother, by exploring with her hypothetical questions like, ';If I were to fall in love with a xxxxx boy (whatever race he is), how would you feel about that?'; or ';Wouldn't it be better to have a good relationship with a xxxx boy than to have a bad relationship with a xxxx one (whatever your race is)?'; Maybe if you get her used to the idea, then you can introduce him into the situation and then she'll be used to it before you have to start on his parents, who you don't say if they're opposed to interracial dating or not, so I can't comment on that. Good luck on it - it's not an easy road.
Your situation really made me feel sad, because I go through a similar problem. My boyfriend is half Mexican half white, but looks white. I'm Mediterranean and my parents are very true to the ';stay with your race'; bit. The part that sucks is that they love him and know we are together, but if they knew he was half Mexican, they would instantly change their views on him. It broke us up for a while because it hurt him that he couldn't be accepted for who he is, so my advice to you is to talk to your boyfriend.





Sit down, ask if this would affect the future, because it might be ok now, but eventually keeping stuff like that under wraps can hurt someone. Hell, its hurting you that you felt the need to ask advice. Do what you feel is reasonable.





I will come back to this question later, if you wanna talk to me personally, tell me.
Youu've left out the most essential information: How old are you?





If you're far from being 18, then there's not a lot you can do about this but wait until you're old enough to leave your parents' home; if you're nearly 18, then you don't have long to wait.





You'll need income suffiencient for a household; you're both better off if you go to college (Community College is cheap, for the first two years).





You also need to decide whether you care about displeasing your parents or not -- you say you do and that you don't. You'll each need to pick one.
Well.... one thing you need to keep in mind that family is always going to be there.... you are young and I know you prob hear this alot but Its true. You go through phases in your life.... you change. You are too young right now with too much going on to know exactly what you want in your future. Just take things day by day and talk to your mom... let her know how you feel and see if there is anyway to solve the problem with her that way. I hope this helped. =/