An honest question: Is it true that men are not good listeners, or rather women just talk a lot?

ok, here me out on this......





a lot of times i find myself busy doing something.....whether its reading something, watching television, listening to music, being on the internet, or just thinking my own thoughts. and when a woman (be it a girlfriend, my mother, or just a friend) is talking to me......if i am busy i absolutely do not hear a word she says.





so i am thinking that......men and women are different when it comes to processing information/ tuning out information.





do you find that women talk to much or is it just that men are very simple creatures who do not like to talk too much?An honest question: Is it true that men are not good listeners, or rather women just talk a lot?
I think that it is somewhat dependent on each individual, at least to some extent. I do agree that women talk a lot more then men and that men, be it unconsciously or not, have selective hearing. Perhaps it is a combination of both of these, or it perhaps it may be that women are just better at multitasking then men, and therefore, we can talk and do other tasks at the same time, while men, it seems, are only able to focus on a single task at a time. =PAn honest question: Is it true that men are not good listeners, or rather women just talk a lot?
It's a combination of both but women are usually better at multitasking than men for example we can be on the computer and still know exactly what each of our children are doing and where they are plus listen about our hubby's day. Of course men and women are different...
it's not the men are not good listeners it just women don't say anything worth listening to.
ya men could sharpen up in that sense
It depends on the person. I'm a man and a very good listener.
Well, it's...





I'm sorry what were you saying again?
There is a common misconception about what being a good listener means. Listening carefully when she is saying something important makes you a good listener.





However we all know that 99% of what women say is pointless and doesn't make any sense. You don't have to be a good listener, you just have to provide yourself for her to talk at, and pretend you're listening. Truth is she's not saying it for your benefit. She just talking at you because she wants to hear herself out loud. It would be rude to let her realise that she is just talking to herself, but this is not about being a good listener.
NO it's not true at all.


ive been studying sociology and anthro for years and one of the first things ive learned is that there IS NO gender differences. meaning absolutely no valid evidence (yes, despite what they say on TV) that there are behavioral differences between men and woman. pure garbage. it's all the way our society expects each gender to act, and we accordingly behave how we are expected.


i am female, a very good listener, but also will not pay attention to what someone is telling me if i dont care, am preoccipied, busy etc. it is the same for every male and female out there.
I don't think women necessarily talk too much, they just don't get to the point or communicate in a way optimal for us. If a woman had a hard day at work and has a story to tell, I'm more interested in the who, what, when, where, why and how. But instead I have to listen how her feet were hurting, her cramps, how someone totally unrelated to the story had p*ssed her off earlier that day, etc.





That's why when they stop talking I just hit them with ';Really!?!? That suck's';, ';who cares what that b*tch says anyway';.
I can't really generalize about the sexes as many so often do here. I can only tell you my personal experience. When I watch t.v. or work on the computer or in the middle of anything, really, I pretty much tune things out. I get the job done better that way. I've told my wife too many times that I do this. But she insists on coming up to my ear and telling me something while I'm in the midst of doing something else. I have no idea of what she's said and sometimes that she's said anything at all. Then as time passes she'll complain that she's told me this thing such and such a time ago and that I don't listen.





Lot's of times I can hear something in the back ground that sounds like her so I purposely shut down what I'm doing, shake my head annoyingly to blank out what I was doing, then turn and face her and ask,'; Now what is it you're saying to me?'; I think that in this case she is the worse listener because I've warned her forever about how I am regarding this.
It's not true that NO men are good listeners.





It's not true that women talk more than men.





PEOPLE vary as to whether they can take in what someone says when they're attending to something else.





Stop misusing this site by posting your favorite video here.





It would be good to let the women in your life know that, if they need to tell or ask you something, they need to get your attention first, and give you the option of hearing it now or later.
while it's dependant on the individual to some extent, it's been shown that women do talk a lot (more than men, anyhow) AND that men don't listen as attentively as women. The combination of both of these makes it so noticeable.
Studies show men, on average, talk more than women, a fact which appears to enrage our little resident misogynists.





http://www.livescience.com/health/071129鈥?/a>





So sorry.
i would say 6 of one half dozen of the other


this is a very biase question, obviously both genders will claim it is the others fault?
It all depends on the individual.
No it is not true.


I think you must just live in your own little world and don't want to be bothered by anyone. :)
No, but it is true that men are all chauvinist pigs
men are not good listeners
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Your story should answer your question - you are too busy doing what you are doing and when a woman starts talking to you- you tune her out - most men are like this - men are not good listeners.





On the flip side - women do talk entirely too much - and we also tend to ramble and have little side-stories that have to be shared and sometimes it can be quite frustrating to have to follow all of that to get to the main point - and I do that as a woman - sometimes I forget what my main point was to begin with





Another point - men can talk too much as well - when my bf starts talking about cars and there are like a million little parts in the engine that he has to describe just so he can tell me how the one part works - because they are all related - I kind of stop listening about half way through. Just tell me about one not about one hundred... I hate cars by the way : )





Maybe we aren't so different after all, just our interests. Men like to talk more about the facts - women like to talk more about emotions behind those facts.